For the first time EVER in my life, I bought Hostess cupcakes and Twinkies today. Yes, you read that correctly. I have never eaten or bought anything Hostess. It felt dirty buying that crap (I decided it best to NOT look at the “nutrition” label or the ingredients). I felt as if people were looking at me weird (which is silly because most people in America have probably had a Twinkie in their lifetime).
I wasn’t buying it for myself though. This morning my friend/coworker came clean about what is going on at home. For the past month or so her fiance has been going crazy. Literally. Yelling all around the house. Scaring her two kids. No physical violence, but he is very unstable.
This has happened before. She was married to him. He started to exhibit crazy behaviors; she couldn’t and wouldn’t put up with it so they divorced. They stayed in contact for the kids and after a few years of being apart, she thought that he had matured. Things were great. They got engaged again, but weren’t planning on getting married until he figured out his finances (he is out of work and on disability because he has Meniere’s disease).
For the past year things have been going well….until this month.
Thankfully she is not going to take it. She doesn’t want him to scare the kids. She doesn’t want to be scared herself. She doesn’t want her kids to grow up and marry a man that is verbally abusive and/or someone that has anger issues. She has already contacted her attorney. She has called the police to take away his pistol permit. She is going to get a restraining order. She is going to file for full custody. She is not going to be nice this time.
I feel just awful. No one wants to cry at work. She lost 6 pounds in the past week from the stress of living with him. The kids are on her side, saying things like, “You tried Mommy” and “Mommy we are going to be okay.”
So on the way back from a dentist appointment I stopped by CVS and bought her some goodies. We always joke because she is skinny, but only eats crap food. She is appalled that I have never had a Twinkie. So I bought her some high fructose corn syrup food in hopes that she will eat something and not waste away.
I’m not sure if there is anything that I can do but try to be here for her. I’m glad that the Hostess treats cheered her up for a few minutes at least.
6 comments:
Your co worker is lucky to have somebody like you who she can talk to and who is helping out. It sounds like a horrible situation but she is doing the right thing.
It sounds like you are doing exactly what she needs - bringing her something to make her smile, and being there for support when she needs it.
Wow, that's awful. What a horrible situation! But I'm glad she has people like you to support her through all of this.
I haven't had a twinkie in ages, and I'll probably never touch one again. Did you at least try it???
great...now I want one too...twinkie, of course, not a crazy man. Geez..what a nightmare.
That was so sweet of you. Of course you can't make things all better, but I'm sure you showed support. Sometimes, in those situations, that's all we can do
What a tough situation for her to be in. I can't even imagine how tough that must be and I'm glad they didn't get married again. She's absolutely doing the right thing and she's lucky she's got you there rooting for her.
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