Oh how the past year has flown by. My post last September 10th was a plea to CP to propose because it had been four months since we looked at rings…..to that night at dinner where he totally surprised me by doing just that!!!
We haven't planned anything special tonight…..CP didn’t even remember that it had been a year since he had proposed. Silly boys that forget important dates! :-) He did say that he thought it was right around this time….
It has been a crazy year of being engaged….and having to call CP my fiancé will end soon enough (23 days!). Soon I will be Mrs. Non Sequitur Chica and my awesome last name will be gone. *tear* It sounds silly to be attached to a last name, but I have had it for 30 years. Most of my nicknames revolve around it. It has been hard enough to transition into my formal first name at work (as opposed to my informal nickname), how the heck am I going to transition into a totally different last name?
However, as much as I like my last name, I think that it’s important to take his. I don’t want to confuse people by thinking that we are not married because we have two different last names. I don’t want to hyphenate because that makes filling out forms annoying. I don’t want to have to think about what name our kids will use if we end up having any. I will just have to learn a new signature and a new name. It might take a while, but to me, it’s worth it. I know that CP appreciates the fact that I will be taking his name.
In order to keep my last name somewhere in my official name, I am thinking about just adding CP’s last name to mine. So that I would have 4 words in my official name. Current first name + current middle name + current last name + CP’s last name. Will that be annoying too? How does that work when you have to put your middle initial on a form? As in, which one do you use?
If you are married, what did you do with your now-husband’s last name? If you are engaged/ single, what do you think you will do when it comes time to head down to the Social Security office?
Showing posts with label holy crap I have a fiance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label holy crap I have a fiance. Show all posts
9.10.2009
9.03.2009
Jealousy
You know how I had my freak out last week after CP came home from his bachelor party? Well, I was checking out my pictures from the bachelorette party, and there is one on my camera from Saturday night of me and some random dude holding up a shot. Not suggestive/ inappropriate in the least bit. CP happened to be looking over and tried to be all casual-sounding, but was like "who is THAT guy?" I wanted to say back....uhhh you had a lap dance and you are upset about a random guy at the bar buying me a shot and then taking a picture with me??
I guess that the moral of the story is that we both don't share (each other) well. Good thing we aren't swingers! ;-)
In other news, it is exactly ONE MONTH until our wedding. I woke up with a start in the middle of the night from some nightmare and was convinced that CP was cheating on me. WTF? I seriously can't wait for this wedding to get here so that my brain will stop playing tricks on me.
I guess that the moral of the story is that we both don't share (each other) well. Good thing we aren't swingers! ;-)
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In other news, it is exactly ONE MONTH until our wedding. I woke up with a start in the middle of the night from some nightmare and was convinced that CP was cheating on me. WTF? I seriously can't wait for this wedding to get here so that my brain will stop playing tricks on me.
4.28.2009
Bachelorette party
I’m a bit of a “planner.” I like to think of ideas, have my hands in the project and make sure that the decisions made are ones that I agree with. That’s why when I was told that I couldn’t help plan my bachelorette party, I got nervous. I like surprises, but really, I would rather know what is going on (so that I can make sure that I like it!). Ha!
My maid of honor asked for the email addresses of everyone that I wanted to invite to the bachelorette party. I included friends that I knew probably wouldn’t come (mainly because they had kids), but I went to their bachelorette party so I thought that they should at least get the invitation. I also included my friend that I talked about here because I was also inviting the rest of our mutual friends.
All I know is that a survey was sent out to try to find the best date for the party. I (of course) had input into this because while it would be nice to do it in September, the last month before the wedding is going to be hectic with vendor meetings AND one of my best friends from college is getting married in GA that month (which means a whole weekend of no wedding stuff).*
Stepping away from planning the bachelorette party is hard. I did tell my maid of honor that I didn’t want to do the “suck for a buck” thing. If you don’t know what that is, it is when the bride-to-be wears a t-shirt with candy (usually Lifesavers) taped to the shirt. Guys pay $1 to use their mouth to grab the candy off the shirt. Needless to say, CP would NOT be happy to have strange guys putting their mouth all over my body (even if there is a shirt in the way) and I would totally get skeeved out with the whole thing. Thankfully, my maid of honor knows me well enough and agreed to not make me do that. I am ready for everything else though- the veil (hey if I am not wearing one on my wedding day I might as well wear one for my bachelorette party!), the penis straws, etc. BRING. IT. ON.
*I am secretly hoping that everyone decides to do the bachelorette party on the same weekend CP is going to have his bachelor party. That way I will be too drunk to think about what he is doing!!!
My maid of honor asked for the email addresses of everyone that I wanted to invite to the bachelorette party. I included friends that I knew probably wouldn’t come (mainly because they had kids), but I went to their bachelorette party so I thought that they should at least get the invitation. I also included my friend that I talked about here because I was also inviting the rest of our mutual friends.
All I know is that a survey was sent out to try to find the best date for the party. I (of course) had input into this because while it would be nice to do it in September, the last month before the wedding is going to be hectic with vendor meetings AND one of my best friends from college is getting married in GA that month (which means a whole weekend of no wedding stuff).*
Stepping away from planning the bachelorette party is hard. I did tell my maid of honor that I didn’t want to do the “suck for a buck” thing. If you don’t know what that is, it is when the bride-to-be wears a t-shirt with candy (usually Lifesavers) taped to the shirt. Guys pay $1 to use their mouth to grab the candy off the shirt. Needless to say, CP would NOT be happy to have strange guys putting their mouth all over my body (even if there is a shirt in the way) and I would totally get skeeved out with the whole thing. Thankfully, my maid of honor knows me well enough and agreed to not make me do that. I am ready for everything else though- the veil (hey if I am not wearing one on my wedding day I might as well wear one for my bachelorette party!), the penis straws, etc. BRING. IT. ON.
*I am secretly hoping that everyone decides to do the bachelorette party on the same weekend CP is going to have his bachelor party. That way I will be too drunk to think about what he is doing!!!
3.30.2009
Random happenings
Today I leave for DC! Hopefully I don't hit too much traffic on my drive down....
Yesterday one of my bridesmaids emailed me to tell me that she is three days late. As in, she might be pregnant. None of my bridesmaids live anywhere the wedding site- in fact, this bridesmaid is clear across the country. I started doing the math on my fingers and the beginning of October is right about the third trimester when she wouldn't be able to fly. YIKES! I am not going to start freaking out just yet, nor am I going to run around trying to find another bridesmaid. However, I might have to start thinking about other people as she doesn't have the time to drive all the way out to NH if she is not able to fly....
This weekend when CP and I were out to dinner, he told me that he finds the word fiance funny. So, when he speaks about me at work, he usually refers to me as his wife. I was like, uhhhh...you kind of skipped an important step! He just shrugged his shoulders and said that saying wife is easier than girlfriend because it implies a serious relationship, that we live together, etc. If he just used the term girlfriend than he would have to explain the relationship a bit more to people. He is so funny some times. Although, I guess when I am struggling to not giggle when calling him my husband (seriously- I'm like 12), he is going to have no problems calling me his wife!
Yesterday one of my bridesmaids emailed me to tell me that she is three days late. As in, she might be pregnant. None of my bridesmaids live anywhere the wedding site- in fact, this bridesmaid is clear across the country. I started doing the math on my fingers and the beginning of October is right about the third trimester when she wouldn't be able to fly. YIKES! I am not going to start freaking out just yet, nor am I going to run around trying to find another bridesmaid. However, I might have to start thinking about other people as she doesn't have the time to drive all the way out to NH if she is not able to fly....
This weekend when CP and I were out to dinner, he told me that he finds the word fiance funny. So, when he speaks about me at work, he usually refers to me as his wife. I was like, uhhhh...you kind of skipped an important step! He just shrugged his shoulders and said that saying wife is easier than girlfriend because it implies a serious relationship, that we live together, etc. If he just used the term girlfriend than he would have to explain the relationship a bit more to people. He is so funny some times. Although, I guess when I am struggling to not giggle when calling him my husband (seriously- I'm like 12), he is going to have no problems calling me his wife!
2.11.2009
A decision I didn't want to think about
Recently I had to take my first pregnancy test of my life. Buying it at CVS was the weirdest feeling. I picked up an inexpensive test as I didn’t want to spend a lot of money on a “first response” or similar test because at that point, I would have already been almost two months pregnant anyway.
I stood in line, pregnancy test in one hand, while waiting to pick up my birth control pills. How ironic. I felt nervous, like everyone was looking at the test and judging me. I even tried to make my left hand more noticeable to show off the ring, lest they think that I was some whore who randomly got pregnant by a one night stand.
I ended up picking up the test because after switching birth control pills two months ago, I did not have a period after the first pack of pills. Talk about nerve racking. I called the doctor’s office from work the afternoon before I was to start my new pack, asking to speak to someone. Unfortunately, they called me back when I was on the commuter bus that night! How embarrassing to have to discuss my issue with a quiet bus of strangers, but I needed answers. The nurse wasn’t very helpful, telling me that she didn’t think I was pregnant, but if I was really worried about it I could take a pregnancy test before starting my next pill pack.
I think that it was out of fear alone that I didn’t take a pregnancy test that month. I was very nervous and even thought about not telling CP what was going on. What if I was pregnant and he decided to leave me? But logical thoughts got a hold of me. CP seemed more nonchalant than I thought he would be.
As the next month dragged on, CP and I made jokes about me being pregnant. Maybe that is why I wasn’t losing weight despite the smoothie diet and all of the gym workouts? We joked that I shouldn’t carry the luggage in the airport because I might “hurt the baby.” Yes, we were awful. I even wondered whether I should be drinking at Christmas, or our engagement party. What if I truly was pregnant?
As the second pill pack started to wind down and a trip to Mexico with tequila and other alcoholic drinks loomed, I started to get nervous again. I felt that it was time to find out the truth. CP suggested that I wait until the next morning to pee on the stick (how did he know that you are supposed to pee on it in the morning (because there are more hormones in your urine in the morning) and I didn’t?), but I couldn’t wait. I figured that if I was truly two months into a pregnancy that the hormones would be raging and the test would be able to tell…even if I was taking the test at night.
I was so nervous that I could barely pee. Turns out, not peeing enough results in an “inconclusive” answer. All of that build up for an invalid result????!???? I took it as a good sign, thinking that if I was pregnant than I would have been pregnant long enough for it to show up on the stick.
Thankfully, my body decided to stop messing with me while we were in Mexico. After happily telling CP the news, he kind of shrugged and said, “well, we would have figured it out. We are not exactly 18 any more.”
And that is exactly how I thought of it. I mean, what awful timing, what with the wedding in October- that meant I would have had the baby a month or two before the wedding. But really, how could I justify NOT having the baby? I am in a stable, loving relationship where we live together and will tie the knot this year. We both have stable jobs. I am now 30 which doesn’t mean I am old by any means, but it makes me think about Sex in the City when Miranda gets pregnant after only having one ovary and Steve only having one ball. She muses something about this maybe being her only chance to have a child. I have no idea what my fertility or CP’s fertility is like as I have never tested it out, but you never know.
Then again, would my parents have freaked out? I have always said that I wouldn’t have a baby without being married and stable first.
Thankfully, I don’t have to make any baby decisions in the near future. And thankfully I haven’t had to go through this earlier in my life.
I stood in line, pregnancy test in one hand, while waiting to pick up my birth control pills. How ironic. I felt nervous, like everyone was looking at the test and judging me. I even tried to make my left hand more noticeable to show off the ring, lest they think that I was some whore who randomly got pregnant by a one night stand.
I ended up picking up the test because after switching birth control pills two months ago, I did not have a period after the first pack of pills. Talk about nerve racking. I called the doctor’s office from work the afternoon before I was to start my new pack, asking to speak to someone. Unfortunately, they called me back when I was on the commuter bus that night! How embarrassing to have to discuss my issue with a quiet bus of strangers, but I needed answers. The nurse wasn’t very helpful, telling me that she didn’t think I was pregnant, but if I was really worried about it I could take a pregnancy test before starting my next pill pack.
I think that it was out of fear alone that I didn’t take a pregnancy test that month. I was very nervous and even thought about not telling CP what was going on. What if I was pregnant and he decided to leave me? But logical thoughts got a hold of me. CP seemed more nonchalant than I thought he would be.
As the next month dragged on, CP and I made jokes about me being pregnant. Maybe that is why I wasn’t losing weight despite the smoothie diet and all of the gym workouts? We joked that I shouldn’t carry the luggage in the airport because I might “hurt the baby.” Yes, we were awful. I even wondered whether I should be drinking at Christmas, or our engagement party. What if I truly was pregnant?
As the second pill pack started to wind down and a trip to Mexico with tequila and other alcoholic drinks loomed, I started to get nervous again. I felt that it was time to find out the truth. CP suggested that I wait until the next morning to pee on the stick (how did he know that you are supposed to pee on it in the morning (because there are more hormones in your urine in the morning) and I didn’t?), but I couldn’t wait. I figured that if I was truly two months into a pregnancy that the hormones would be raging and the test would be able to tell…even if I was taking the test at night.
I was so nervous that I could barely pee. Turns out, not peeing enough results in an “inconclusive” answer. All of that build up for an invalid result????!???? I took it as a good sign, thinking that if I was pregnant than I would have been pregnant long enough for it to show up on the stick.
Thankfully, my body decided to stop messing with me while we were in Mexico. After happily telling CP the news, he kind of shrugged and said, “well, we would have figured it out. We are not exactly 18 any more.”
And that is exactly how I thought of it. I mean, what awful timing, what with the wedding in October- that meant I would have had the baby a month or two before the wedding. But really, how could I justify NOT having the baby? I am in a stable, loving relationship where we live together and will tie the knot this year. We both have stable jobs. I am now 30 which doesn’t mean I am old by any means, but it makes me think about Sex in the City when Miranda gets pregnant after only having one ovary and Steve only having one ball. She muses something about this maybe being her only chance to have a child. I have no idea what my fertility or CP’s fertility is like as I have never tested it out, but you never know.
Then again, would my parents have freaked out? I have always said that I wouldn’t have a baby without being married and stable first.
Thankfully, I don’t have to make any baby decisions in the near future. And thankfully I haven’t had to go through this earlier in my life.
1.09.2009
Revelations
As a bride-to-be, I sometimes find myself holding back information or being embarrassed in certain company. It is quite an odd feeling, as with my friends, I am usually quite the open book (sometimes to CP’s dismay).
For instance, I find myself not talking about the wedding that much to certain friends. My MOH and my sister (a bridesmaid) are both single and while my MOH is fine with that because she is so busy, my sister is not. In fact, when my parents threw CP and me an engagement party over Christmas, my sister proceeded to get embarrassing drunk and get upset about not having a boyfriend. Thankfully most people had left the party by then, but she definitely scared my parents. I don’t want to throw it in their face that I will be getting married, so I try not to talk about it too much. I am guessing that will have to change when it gets closer to the wedding though.
The embarrassment part stems from the ring. I LOVE my ring. It is amazingly beautiful and I am so lucky to have it. I am NOT complaining about it in the least bit! But at times I am embarrassed when in the presence of my friends that have smaller rings. Is that silly? It’s not like my ring is even THAT huge….but it is compared to say, some of my friends that got married in law school.
It’s possible that I might be self-imposing the ban on talking about the wedding, or it’s all in my head that I should be embarrassed about my ring. I guess I should try to enjoy the next nine months of our engagement, instead of hiding from it.
On a side note, a woman at work last night rode down in the elevator with me and said, “Aren’t you getting married this year?” And it dawned on me. HOLY CRAP I AM GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR. When I told CP the story he didn’t see the big deal, but I think that it is because I am so used to telling people that my wedding would be next year, that when 2009 hit, it didn’t even occur to me how time is slowly ticking away towards the wedding. It started to get more real to me. I? Will be married in less than 10 months. Holy crap.
For instance, I find myself not talking about the wedding that much to certain friends. My MOH and my sister (a bridesmaid) are both single and while my MOH is fine with that because she is so busy, my sister is not. In fact, when my parents threw CP and me an engagement party over Christmas, my sister proceeded to get embarrassing drunk and get upset about not having a boyfriend. Thankfully most people had left the party by then, but she definitely scared my parents. I don’t want to throw it in their face that I will be getting married, so I try not to talk about it too much. I am guessing that will have to change when it gets closer to the wedding though.
The embarrassment part stems from the ring. I LOVE my ring. It is amazingly beautiful and I am so lucky to have it. I am NOT complaining about it in the least bit! But at times I am embarrassed when in the presence of my friends that have smaller rings. Is that silly? It’s not like my ring is even THAT huge….but it is compared to say, some of my friends that got married in law school.
It’s possible that I might be self-imposing the ban on talking about the wedding, or it’s all in my head that I should be embarrassed about my ring. I guess I should try to enjoy the next nine months of our engagement, instead of hiding from it.
On a side note, a woman at work last night rode down in the elevator with me and said, “Aren’t you getting married this year?” And it dawned on me. HOLY CRAP I AM GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR. When I told CP the story he didn’t see the big deal, but I think that it is because I am so used to telling people that my wedding would be next year, that when 2009 hit, it didn’t even occur to me how time is slowly ticking away towards the wedding. It started to get more real to me. I? Will be married in less than 10 months. Holy crap.
12.31.2008
Bye bye 2008
Looking back on the year that was 2008, I have to say that I had an amazing year! I almost don’t want it to end! Then again, maybe 2009 will be even better?
Some of the 2008 highlights:
*Two week trip to Maui with CP. Exploring places with funny names such as Haleakala National Park and Wai’anapanapa State Park. Learning the basics of scuba diving while watching huge sea turtles and bright fish swim by and listening to the whale sounds while underwater. Traveling as high as 10,000 feet to the top of the Haleakala Crater, to the bottom of the 400 foot Waimoku waterfall. Relaxing by the pool with fruity tropical drinks. Ahhhh it was the life.
*My final spring break as a law student. My law school friends, their significant others and I were able to score a sweet ski condo for the week- I even had two friends come over from Sweden! The skiing was amazing. Before we head up to the mountains, CP (ever the engineer) came up with an “alco-rhythm.” Basically, it was a formula that he made up to gauge how much alcohol we needed for the week. And it was DEAD ON. I have a smart man!
*A long weekend with CP in Puerto Rico. I happened to be out in DC for a job fair and CP was stuck in Puerto Rico for work (usually you wouldn’t say that you were “stuck” in PR, but CP was working very long hours- even weekends- and didn’t have anyone around that he knew). It had been two weeks since we had seen each other, so CP asked his boss to fly me out to PR from DC on the company’s dime. Amazingly enough, his boss said yes! We spent the weekend exploring the San Juan National Historic Site, El Yunque National Forest , going to yummy restaurants, and even kayaking in a bioluminescence bay (AMAZING!).
*Getting an offer for my dream job right during finals.
*Graduating from law school. ‘Nuff said.
*Getting a kayak as my graduation present from CP. I was able to justify a few hours away from studying for the bar for kayaking because it was exercise and time with CP this summer.
*Surviving a summer studying for the bar 12+ hours a day and living with CP at my future mother-in-law and her fiance’s house. The future MIL was great….the fiancé? A different story. At least I had an excuse (studying) to get away from silly conversations with him.
*Getting engaged! With a beautiful ring! In a way that is very “us.” Speaking of which, this is what CP wants to write on our wedding webpage about how he proposed: I like surprises. NSC likes ruining my surprises. Tactically this needed good execution. No dressy dinner, no get away weekends, nothing that was going to arouse suspicion. How was it that I was going to propose without any warning? My solution: choose a random day and deliver the ring via bivalves! With a little help from my hard-shelled friends, I was going to deliver a sparkling diamond ring on the underside of a oyster on an otherwise uneventful Wednesday evening. First problem is that NSC doesn’t like oysters (don’t worry, I am working on this issue). My solution was a dish of mussels steamed in a broth of herbs and fume blanc. Second problem, diamond rings have all sorts of prongs and crevices that seem to snag onto food. My solution was to wrap the ring in plastic wrap, which had the appearance of a bottle cap. Also, mussels don’t comfortably fit a full ring. Needless to say what I envisioned was a romantic delivery of a ring. What resulted was that NSC almost became ill from eating a mussel that had mysteriously swallowed its body weight in bottle cap. So, where I failed in romantic execution, I at least passed in catching her off guard. Success!” CP amuses me.
*Passing the god forsaken bar!!! Then getting sworn in last month.
*Doing my part to help Obama win the presidency!! Does anyone else want time to speed up so that he can just become president already????
*The joy of continuing my streak of seeing one Eagles game in person per year. So the game against the Redskins wasn’t very good….at least they made up for it last weekend!
*Getting to see CP during the week instead of just on the weekends starting halfway through the year. Although CP is not very happy with his job right now, at least he hasn’t had to travel since June. It’s nice to sleep next to him every night….even if he does snore sometimes!
*Getting back into an exercise routine. I was exhausted yesterday at work, but still willed myself to go to the gym because I didn’t exercise as much as I would have liked while in Chicago. I feel better….even if I have only lost 2.5 pounds.
*My family and my friends. This year they have helped me through freak-outs over why CP hadn’t proposed, if I was going to find a job, if I was going to pass the bar, moving across the country for a BOY, etc.
I hope that everyone has a SAFE and FUN New Years! See ya in 2009!
Some of the 2008 highlights:
*Two week trip to Maui with CP. Exploring places with funny names such as Haleakala National Park and Wai’anapanapa State Park. Learning the basics of scuba diving while watching huge sea turtles and bright fish swim by and listening to the whale sounds while underwater. Traveling as high as 10,000 feet to the top of the Haleakala Crater, to the bottom of the 400 foot Waimoku waterfall. Relaxing by the pool with fruity tropical drinks. Ahhhh it was the life.
*My final spring break as a law student. My law school friends, their significant others and I were able to score a sweet ski condo for the week- I even had two friends come over from Sweden! The skiing was amazing. Before we head up to the mountains, CP (ever the engineer) came up with an “alco-rhythm.” Basically, it was a formula that he made up to gauge how much alcohol we needed for the week. And it was DEAD ON. I have a smart man!
*A long weekend with CP in Puerto Rico. I happened to be out in DC for a job fair and CP was stuck in Puerto Rico for work (usually you wouldn’t say that you were “stuck” in PR, but CP was working very long hours- even weekends- and didn’t have anyone around that he knew). It had been two weeks since we had seen each other, so CP asked his boss to fly me out to PR from DC on the company’s dime. Amazingly enough, his boss said yes! We spent the weekend exploring the San Juan National Historic Site, El Yunque National Forest , going to yummy restaurants, and even kayaking in a bioluminescence bay (AMAZING!).
*Getting an offer for my dream job right during finals.
*Graduating from law school. ‘Nuff said.
*Getting a kayak as my graduation present from CP. I was able to justify a few hours away from studying for the bar for kayaking because it was exercise and time with CP this summer.
*Surviving a summer studying for the bar 12+ hours a day and living with CP at my future mother-in-law and her fiance’s house. The future MIL was great….the fiancé? A different story. At least I had an excuse (studying) to get away from silly conversations with him.
*Getting engaged! With a beautiful ring! In a way that is very “us.” Speaking of which, this is what CP wants to write on our wedding webpage about how he proposed: I like surprises. NSC likes ruining my surprises. Tactically this needed good execution. No dressy dinner, no get away weekends, nothing that was going to arouse suspicion. How was it that I was going to propose without any warning? My solution: choose a random day and deliver the ring via bivalves! With a little help from my hard-shelled friends, I was going to deliver a sparkling diamond ring on the underside of a oyster on an otherwise uneventful Wednesday evening. First problem is that NSC doesn’t like oysters (don’t worry, I am working on this issue). My solution was a dish of mussels steamed in a broth of herbs and fume blanc. Second problem, diamond rings have all sorts of prongs and crevices that seem to snag onto food. My solution was to wrap the ring in plastic wrap, which had the appearance of a bottle cap. Also, mussels don’t comfortably fit a full ring. Needless to say what I envisioned was a romantic delivery of a ring. What resulted was that NSC almost became ill from eating a mussel that had mysteriously swallowed its body weight in bottle cap. So, where I failed in romantic execution, I at least passed in catching her off guard. Success!” CP amuses me.
*Passing the god forsaken bar!!! Then getting sworn in last month.
*Doing my part to help Obama win the presidency!! Does anyone else want time to speed up so that he can just become president already????
*The joy of continuing my streak of seeing one Eagles game in person per year. So the game against the Redskins wasn’t very good….at least they made up for it last weekend!
*Getting to see CP during the week instead of just on the weekends starting halfway through the year. Although CP is not very happy with his job right now, at least he hasn’t had to travel since June. It’s nice to sleep next to him every night….even if he does snore sometimes!
*Getting back into an exercise routine. I was exhausted yesterday at work, but still willed myself to go to the gym because I didn’t exercise as much as I would have liked while in Chicago. I feel better….even if I have only lost 2.5 pounds.
*My family and my friends. This year they have helped me through freak-outs over why CP hadn’t proposed, if I was going to find a job, if I was going to pass the bar, moving across the country for a BOY, etc.
I hope that everyone has a SAFE and FUN New Years! See ya in 2009!
11.03.2008
How to forge a deeper relationship
Sorry for the lack of posting on Friday- I kept meaning to do it at work but then I had to finish up a project before I left for the airport. This past weekend CP and I flew out to Chicago for a friend’s wedding. We had a fairly good weekend, but I am still disheartened with the relationship between CP and my parents….
I will admit that my parents are a little hard to get to know. They are both a bit more “formal.” Sure, my dad will tell off-color jokes sometimes, but at 6’4” he is intimidating. And with CP and my dad not having a lot of the same interests, sometimes it makes conversations a bit….well, lacking. My mom and CP can at least talk about cooking, but CP doesn’t have an interest (and neither do I) in architecture like my dad.
My parents, for fear of asking an inappropriate question, simply don’t ask CP a lot about himself or his family. I know that it is not for lack of curiosity, but they feel the need to ask ME the questions instead.
Maybe it is because my sister and I freely talk with my parents about anything and everything. So without talking to CP, my parents already know a lot about him from what I say. Maybe it is that my parents are so used to my sister and I giving them information that they don’t really ask questions anymore. But that is not a good excuse. CP is not as vocal as the members of my family so to get to know him you would think they would ask MORE questions.
I think that what frustrates me the most is that my parents should want to get to know their future son-in-law better. They should ask him questions, even if they are questions which I have given them answers to already. Maybe he has a different answer? It makes me sad that the man that I love and the parents that I love have more of a surface relationship.
Do any of you have problems between your significant other and your parents? I guess “problems” is the wrong word…it is just that the relationship lacks depth. I am tempted to lock the three of them in a room for hours until they start really talking. Since this isn’t the best option, does anyone have any suggestions?
I will admit that my parents are a little hard to get to know. They are both a bit more “formal.” Sure, my dad will tell off-color jokes sometimes, but at 6’4” he is intimidating. And with CP and my dad not having a lot of the same interests, sometimes it makes conversations a bit….well, lacking. My mom and CP can at least talk about cooking, but CP doesn’t have an interest (and neither do I) in architecture like my dad.
My parents, for fear of asking an inappropriate question, simply don’t ask CP a lot about himself or his family. I know that it is not for lack of curiosity, but they feel the need to ask ME the questions instead.
Maybe it is because my sister and I freely talk with my parents about anything and everything. So without talking to CP, my parents already know a lot about him from what I say. Maybe it is that my parents are so used to my sister and I giving them information that they don’t really ask questions anymore. But that is not a good excuse. CP is not as vocal as the members of my family so to get to know him you would think they would ask MORE questions.
I think that what frustrates me the most is that my parents should want to get to know their future son-in-law better. They should ask him questions, even if they are questions which I have given them answers to already. Maybe he has a different answer? It makes me sad that the man that I love and the parents that I love have more of a surface relationship.
Do any of you have problems between your significant other and your parents? I guess “problems” is the wrong word…it is just that the relationship lacks depth. I am tempted to lock the three of them in a room for hours until they start really talking. Since this isn’t the best option, does anyone have any suggestions?
10.28.2008
Where to honeymoon?
Yesterday we stopped by a Barnes and Noble to try to get a better idea of where to go for our honeymoon. We have been brainstorming for a while, but we had to discard a lot of our ideas because of various reasons.
Thailand/ Vietnam/ etc- October is during monsoon season. No fun.
Europe- I have already been to a bunch of European countries (Spain, Sweden, France, Italy, Switzerland, Germany, England, Belgium, etc.), it would be really expensive, and too crowded.
Caribbean- I did a cruise of many of the islands right after college.
Hawaii- we were just in Maui for two weeks in January
Japan- too cold in October
Mexico- I have already been….and it’s so easy to fly down there.
South Africa- we thought a safari would be fun, but recently realized that it was going to be too expensive
Fiji/ Tahiti/ etc.- CP originally REALLY wanted to go to a place where we could stay in an overwater bungalow. However, after checking out prices? Ha ha ha ha.
New Zealand- October would be their spring, so not quite warm enough for a honeymoon. Would still love to travel here at some point though.
Australia- CP says that he thinks that it is going to be like he is in Canada, just with funnier accents. I tend to disagree as I could hang out with kangaroos and koalas (which you can only find in the zoo in Canada) but the honeymoon is supposed to be about US, not just me. Plus, the country is so big that we would have no idea where to focus our two weeks!
After looking through a travel book on Ecuador/ the Galapagos Islands I think that we have made our decision. Ecuador has all kinds of stuff we are looking for- volcanoes, ruins, mountains, jungle (including MONKEYS and other fun animals), interesting food, etc. Plus, it has a Marriott in Quito (the capital city) so we can use CP’s reward points from traveling so much and stay for free. Then we are thinking about doing a tour of the Galapagos with a local company which should be fun. The country is moderately-priced, safe, and the weather will be nice and warm (80 degrees) the entire trip.
Has anyone had the pleasure of traveling down to Ecuador and/or the Galapagos? If so, have you enjoyed yourself? Or, are there any other places that we should be looking at?*
*We haven’t taken Costa Rica or Belize off the list, but think that those countries are the new “hot spots” to go to. While we know that either of them would be amazing, we want to go somewhere off the beaten path.
Thailand/ Vietnam/ etc- October is during monsoon season. No fun.
Europe- I have already been to a bunch of European countries (Spain, Sweden, France, Italy, Switzerland, Germany, England, Belgium, etc.), it would be really expensive, and too crowded.
Caribbean- I did a cruise of many of the islands right after college.
Hawaii- we were just in Maui for two weeks in January
Japan- too cold in October
Mexico- I have already been….and it’s so easy to fly down there.
South Africa- we thought a safari would be fun, but recently realized that it was going to be too expensive
Fiji/ Tahiti/ etc.- CP originally REALLY wanted to go to a place where we could stay in an overwater bungalow. However, after checking out prices? Ha ha ha ha.
New Zealand- October would be their spring, so not quite warm enough for a honeymoon. Would still love to travel here at some point though.
Australia- CP says that he thinks that it is going to be like he is in Canada, just with funnier accents. I tend to disagree as I could hang out with kangaroos and koalas (which you can only find in the zoo in Canada) but the honeymoon is supposed to be about US, not just me. Plus, the country is so big that we would have no idea where to focus our two weeks!
After looking through a travel book on Ecuador/ the Galapagos Islands I think that we have made our decision. Ecuador has all kinds of stuff we are looking for- volcanoes, ruins, mountains, jungle (including MONKEYS and other fun animals), interesting food, etc. Plus, it has a Marriott in Quito (the capital city) so we can use CP’s reward points from traveling so much and stay for free. Then we are thinking about doing a tour of the Galapagos with a local company which should be fun. The country is moderately-priced, safe, and the weather will be nice and warm (80 degrees) the entire trip.
Has anyone had the pleasure of traveling down to Ecuador and/or the Galapagos? If so, have you enjoyed yourself? Or, are there any other places that we should be looking at?*
*We haven’t taken Costa Rica or Belize off the list, but think that those countries are the new “hot spots” to go to. While we know that either of them would be amazing, we want to go somewhere off the beaten path.
10.27.2008
Your questions answered
Christina asked: What is the best wedding planning advice you have received so far?
The best wedding advice I have received so far is to have a sweetheart table during the reception. Some people may not like this idea as it does attract a lot of attention towards the couple, but married friends told me that it was their best decision. The wedding day is a whirlwind; having a sweetheart table allows the couple 10 or 15 minutes of time together before pulled in 20 different directions. It might also give us a chance to have a quick bite of food!
Libby asked: What is your favorite place? Why do you like to go there?
I am in a travel mindset right now as CP and I are trying to figure out where to go on our honeymoon, so I will answer this question two ways. First up- my favorite place that I have traveled. I have been lucky to have traveled a lot in my 29 years. There is one place in the world that I have been awe-struck and unable to form complete sentences because of the beauty that surrounded me. That place was Perito Moreno glacier in Calafate, Argentina. It is one of the only glaciers in the world that is advancing, not retreating. Friends from my study abroad program and I were supposed to have gone on a boat trip right up to the glacier, but unfortunately we hit bad weather on the flight out from Buenos Aires so we missed the tour. Instead, we hired a cab driver, woke up really early, and drove out to the glacier in time for sunrise. I can’t even explain the amazing-ness of it all as the sun started to rise and hit the mountains that surrounded the glacier. Although it was winter time in June (remember, south of the equator= opposite season), every once in a while you would hear a thundering sound as ice broke off from the glacier and fell into the water.
The other way of answering this question is to tell you my favorite place that I go to regularly. I could go the sappy route and say “home” because that is where I get to spend time with CP and Fuzzy Britches…..but I do not want to induce vomiting on the part of my readers and home is not always my favorite place to be because it means having to do the dishes, laundry, etc. Because we just moved to our area two months ago, I still do not have a favorite place in MA. I suspect that it will end up being a park (either local or state) close by to our house where we can take the dog hiking and get some exercise.
The best wedding advice I have received so far is to have a sweetheart table during the reception. Some people may not like this idea as it does attract a lot of attention towards the couple, but married friends told me that it was their best decision. The wedding day is a whirlwind; having a sweetheart table allows the couple 10 or 15 minutes of time together before pulled in 20 different directions. It might also give us a chance to have a quick bite of food!
Libby asked: What is your favorite place? Why do you like to go there?
I am in a travel mindset right now as CP and I are trying to figure out where to go on our honeymoon, so I will answer this question two ways. First up- my favorite place that I have traveled. I have been lucky to have traveled a lot in my 29 years. There is one place in the world that I have been awe-struck and unable to form complete sentences because of the beauty that surrounded me. That place was Perito Moreno glacier in Calafate, Argentina. It is one of the only glaciers in the world that is advancing, not retreating. Friends from my study abroad program and I were supposed to have gone on a boat trip right up to the glacier, but unfortunately we hit bad weather on the flight out from Buenos Aires so we missed the tour. Instead, we hired a cab driver, woke up really early, and drove out to the glacier in time for sunrise. I can’t even explain the amazing-ness of it all as the sun started to rise and hit the mountains that surrounded the glacier. Although it was winter time in June (remember, south of the equator= opposite season), every once in a while you would hear a thundering sound as ice broke off from the glacier and fell into the water.
The other way of answering this question is to tell you my favorite place that I go to regularly. I could go the sappy route and say “home” because that is where I get to spend time with CP and Fuzzy Britches…..but I do not want to induce vomiting on the part of my readers and home is not always my favorite place to be because it means having to do the dishes, laundry, etc. Because we just moved to our area two months ago, I still do not have a favorite place in MA. I suspect that it will end up being a park (either local or state) close by to our house where we can take the dog hiking and get some exercise.
10.24.2008
Family weekend #2
This weekend is the second weekend of three straight weekends of FAMILY! Last weekend CP’s dad, dad’s girlfriend, aunt, and uncle all came down to our house for a visit. We went to a small town festival before making a huge and delicious Indian food feast. Everyone was very impressed with CP’s saag paneer-making abilities because how many people do you know make saag paneer from scratch? I was supposed to make naan, but didn’t get a chance during the week to test out the recipe, so we used store-bought stuff. Then we proceeded to drink a lot of wine. Old people are fun when you drink wine with them!
Sunday we went to Quabbin Reservoir with them and walked around for 2.5 hours with Fuzzy Britches. The fall foliage was great and the weather turned out to be really nice for a walk.
Tonight we will be driving down to Jersey to visit my aunt and uncle. When I lived in Philly I used to regularly drive to see them, but it has been five years since I lived within driving distance- way too long in my book! Fuzzy Britches gets to come along and will hopefully play nice with their dogs. My aunt has promised cider-making fun tomorrow, along with a dinner party that night. They always have ridiculously amazing food and wine….so I suspect that the time spent at the gym this week will be for naught. But completely worth it!
I know that my aunt is excited to see the ring (she was a jeweler) and hear about all of our wedding plans. The problem is….we haven’t done anything or made any new decisions.
Sunday we went to Quabbin Reservoir with them and walked around for 2.5 hours with Fuzzy Britches. The fall foliage was great and the weather turned out to be really nice for a walk.
Tonight we will be driving down to Jersey to visit my aunt and uncle. When I lived in Philly I used to regularly drive to see them, but it has been five years since I lived within driving distance- way too long in my book! Fuzzy Britches gets to come along and will hopefully play nice with their dogs. My aunt has promised cider-making fun tomorrow, along with a dinner party that night. They always have ridiculously amazing food and wine….so I suspect that the time spent at the gym this week will be for naught. But completely worth it!
I know that my aunt is excited to see the ring (she was a jeweler) and hear about all of our wedding plans. The problem is….we haven’t done anything or made any new decisions.
10.08.2008
First wedding nightmare
Last night, I had my first wedding nightmare. It was the day of our wedding. I was riding on a trolley with a bunch of our wedding guests to the ceremony.* I looked at my watch and realized that there was only ONE HOUR until the ceremony. I had no idea where my bridesmaids were. My hair and makeup was not done. I had not put on my dress.
To my friends I kept joking that I was going to be late to my own wedding.....while in my head I was kicking myself. I realized that I hadn't planned ANYTHING for our wedding. We obviously sent out invitations as my friends were there, but I realized that other than finding a place for our ceremony and reception, we had not done anything else. I thought, you had a freakin YEAR to plan this wedding and you did NOTHING????
This morning I woke up and told CP that I had a wedding nightmare. He told me that I shouldn't stress about our wedding- especially when it is a year away! While I agree, I know myself...and stress will be part of the process. I just have to resign myself to that fact.
*Note: We will NOT be having a trolley for our wedding.
To my friends I kept joking that I was going to be late to my own wedding.....while in my head I was kicking myself. I realized that I hadn't planned ANYTHING for our wedding. We obviously sent out invitations as my friends were there, but I realized that other than finding a place for our ceremony and reception, we had not done anything else. I thought, you had a freakin YEAR to plan this wedding and you did NOTHING????
This morning I woke up and told CP that I had a wedding nightmare. He told me that I shouldn't stress about our wedding- especially when it is a year away! While I agree, I know myself...and stress will be part of the process. I just have to resign myself to that fact.
*Note: We will NOT be having a trolley for our wedding.
9.24.2008
Crazy future brides
So this weekend CP and I went up north to look at places for our ceremony and reception. Our questionnaire* went out to probably 30 places; about 20 replied (which we thought was pretty good given the short amount of time). We ended up making appointments with six places (3 on Sat, 3 on Sun) based on cost, location, etc.
The first day was just okay…CP would have been fine with one place but I thought that it looked a little worn. One of the places the first day had a hold on the weekend that we wanted, but the owner said that it was a tentative hold. You see, some woman who is NOT YET A BRIDE has come THREE TIMES in the past year to look at the place. She keeps putting a hold on the same weekend and promising that she is going to be engaged soon.
I have one word for that potential guy: RUN!!! While I think that it is great if you want to think about where you might have your wedding, what kind of dress you would want, the flowers that you would have, etc. I think that actually going and putting a hold on a place before you even get engaged is a bit ridonkulous (especially if you have been doing it for a YEAR). I understand that there are places that have two year waiting lists (definitely not this place) during busy times, but not once did the guy come and look at the Inn. He probably doesn’t even know about it. So this woman is basically already planning the wedding before he even gets a chance to do some looking around and before they are already engaged! The owner of the Inn certainly made it sound like this woman was a bit crazy.
Moving on…..we almost didn’t go to our last appointment on Sunday as we were tired from driving and all of the meetings, but kept it anyway. Thank goodness we did. As soon as we stepped on the property, we knew it was the place. A beautiful mountain backdrop, a cute inn that we could take over for the weekend, owners that we thought we would be able to work with, peak fall foliage, and a cost that was within our budget. Our wedding date is now set for October 3, 2009!!!!**
*I will post the questionnaire so that any future brides/ grooms can use it if they would like. We decided to send out a questionnaire before visiting the facilities to be able to compare site costs and amenities. We read that some places will nickel and dime you with a facility rental fee, but then not tell you that tables, chairs, and linens are not included and that you have to rent them separately. So, in order to not be surprised and to have information going in so that we could ask more thoughtful questions, we had them fill out a questionnaire. Two of the places actually said that in the 10+ years they have been doing weddings they have never seen a questionnaire and were impressed. Go us!
**I was really hoping for this date as our dating anniversary is October 2nd (3 years next week!) so now our wedding anniversary is only going to be one day off.
The first day was just okay…CP would have been fine with one place but I thought that it looked a little worn. One of the places the first day had a hold on the weekend that we wanted, but the owner said that it was a tentative hold. You see, some woman who is NOT YET A BRIDE has come THREE TIMES in the past year to look at the place. She keeps putting a hold on the same weekend and promising that she is going to be engaged soon.
I have one word for that potential guy: RUN!!! While I think that it is great if you want to think about where you might have your wedding, what kind of dress you would want, the flowers that you would have, etc. I think that actually going and putting a hold on a place before you even get engaged is a bit ridonkulous (especially if you have been doing it for a YEAR). I understand that there are places that have two year waiting lists (definitely not this place) during busy times, but not once did the guy come and look at the Inn. He probably doesn’t even know about it. So this woman is basically already planning the wedding before he even gets a chance to do some looking around and before they are already engaged! The owner of the Inn certainly made it sound like this woman was a bit crazy.
Moving on…..we almost didn’t go to our last appointment on Sunday as we were tired from driving and all of the meetings, but kept it anyway. Thank goodness we did. As soon as we stepped on the property, we knew it was the place. A beautiful mountain backdrop, a cute inn that we could take over for the weekend, owners that we thought we would be able to work with, peak fall foliage, and a cost that was within our budget. Our wedding date is now set for October 3, 2009!!!!**
*I will post the questionnaire so that any future brides/ grooms can use it if they would like. We decided to send out a questionnaire before visiting the facilities to be able to compare site costs and amenities. We read that some places will nickel and dime you with a facility rental fee, but then not tell you that tables, chairs, and linens are not included and that you have to rent them separately. So, in order to not be surprised and to have information going in so that we could ask more thoughtful questions, we had them fill out a questionnaire. Two of the places actually said that in the 10+ years they have been doing weddings they have never seen a questionnaire and were impressed. Go us!
**I was really hoping for this date as our dating anniversary is October 2nd (3 years next week!) so now our wedding anniversary is only going to be one day off.
9.22.2008
Why are you talking funny?
So based on your comments from this post, I am going to go to a MAC store and buy all new makeup. Luckily, I only need a few essentials which means not spending *too* much money. I guess milking 10+ years out of a couple of colors of eye shadow is a good value. ;-)
Since I am having a hard enough time remembering to call my fiancé “fiancé” and not “boyfriend” at work, to friends/ family, etc., I think that I should change his name on this blog to something else. So I don’t confuse people in a year when he becomes my husband, from now on he will be named CP.
Housekeeping items aside.
This weekend CP and I headed up north to stay with his dad Friday night. His dad and girlfriend graciously offered to watch fuzzy britches for us while we checked out wedding locations. CP’s dad was talking a little funny when we first arrived at the house….we came to find out that earlier that day he had lost a front tooth!!! CP’s dad is a little older than my parents- he is in his early 60s. He tried to call the dentist on Friday after it happened but never got a call back. So all throughout dinner he was the butt of many jokes. We were all joking about taking a picture of him smiling and sending it to my parents with a caption of “can’t wait to meet you!” Poor guy. His brother has had problems with his teeth as he has gotten older and just recently had major surgery to fix everything so it was a bit embarrassing after all of that ribbing on his brother to suddenly be without a front tooth.
Despite the jokes, we had a nice dinner. Both CP’s dad and girlfriend are really excited about the wedding which is great. They wanted to hear about everything that we had talked about so far, the places that we wanted to check out for reception sites (and even offered up some of their own suggestions), how formal we want the wedding, etc. CP’s dad even offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner which was generous of him.*
More on the weekend tomorrow……
*This might be a little interesting as CP’s mom has not mentioned about paying for anything. However, she is currently planning her own (small) wedding in November and her fiancé is currently out of work so we are not expecting anything.
Since I am having a hard enough time remembering to call my fiancé “fiancé” and not “boyfriend” at work, to friends/ family, etc., I think that I should change his name on this blog to something else. So I don’t confuse people in a year when he becomes my husband, from now on he will be named CP.
Housekeeping items aside.
This weekend CP and I headed up north to stay with his dad Friday night. His dad and girlfriend graciously offered to watch fuzzy britches for us while we checked out wedding locations. CP’s dad was talking a little funny when we first arrived at the house….we came to find out that earlier that day he had lost a front tooth!!! CP’s dad is a little older than my parents- he is in his early 60s. He tried to call the dentist on Friday after it happened but never got a call back. So all throughout dinner he was the butt of many jokes. We were all joking about taking a picture of him smiling and sending it to my parents with a caption of “can’t wait to meet you!” Poor guy. His brother has had problems with his teeth as he has gotten older and just recently had major surgery to fix everything so it was a bit embarrassing after all of that ribbing on his brother to suddenly be without a front tooth.
Despite the jokes, we had a nice dinner. Both CP’s dad and girlfriend are really excited about the wedding which is great. They wanted to hear about everything that we had talked about so far, the places that we wanted to check out for reception sites (and even offered up some of their own suggestions), how formal we want the wedding, etc. CP’s dad even offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner which was generous of him.*
More on the weekend tomorrow……
*This might be a little interesting as CP’s mom has not mentioned about paying for anything. However, she is currently planning her own (small) wedding in November and her fiancé is currently out of work so we are not expecting anything.
9.17.2008
I've had it already
Well, it has been one week since I got engaged and I'm already ready to elope. BF and I want a fall wedding, preferably in the mountains of NH. Supposedly, this is one of the most popular times to have a wedding in New England as everyone wants to have their wedding during leaf peeping season. So, a lot of the places that we are looking at only have one of our dates open or some of them, no dates at all (we gave them a choice of three).
Not only that, but everything is so GD expensive. A wedding is ONE DAY. Yes, I would love for a nice wedding, but the fact that one has to spend $30,000 on ONE DAY is ricockulous.* One place that I knew would be out of our price range was just $27,000 to rent the reception hall, an outdoor area for the ceremony, and proposed food and alcohol costs. HA HA HA HA HA.
Sorry for the rant. I probably should have waited a few weeks to start planning my wedding instead of jumping right in. That way I wouldn't have become a bitter bride-to-be just yet.
*This is my word that signifies that something has gone above and beyond ridonkulous.
Not only that, but everything is so GD expensive. A wedding is ONE DAY. Yes, I would love for a nice wedding, but the fact that one has to spend $30,000 on ONE DAY is ricockulous.* One place that I knew would be out of our price range was just $27,000 to rent the reception hall, an outdoor area for the ceremony, and proposed food and alcohol costs. HA HA HA HA HA.
Sorry for the rant. I probably should have waited a few weeks to start planning my wedding instead of jumping right in. That way I wouldn't have become a bitter bride-to-be just yet.
*This is my word that signifies that something has gone above and beyond ridonkulous.
9.15.2008
The first few days....
Proposal stories from the past few days:
*After BF proposed he said that one of the lines that he thought about saying when I pulled the ring out of the mussel was "wow! Some fisherman's wife got screwed!" Thankfully he did NOT.
*After calling our parents BF thought it might be funny to just change our status to "engaged" on Facebook and not call/ text anyone else. I nixed the idea because I do have a small number of friends that are not on Facebook and it's just not a nice way to tell some of our close friends. So, we took a picture with my camera phone and sent the picture of the ring with my smiling face in the background to all of our friends. Unfortunately, some of the picture messages didn't go through, so some people ended up finding out through Facebook anyway. Oh well.
*At first, we were a little underwhelmed with the reaction from both of our parents. However, I reminded BF that his mom already knew about the ring because she held onto it for some part of the summer AND that my parents knew that we went shopping for rings back in June. So while it was exciting that he finally proposed, it wasn't like it was totally out of the blue. Since we have now talked to all of the parents again since breaking the news, they have seemed very excited to help us out with the wedding process and we feel better.
*The reaction from people on Facebook was a bit ridonkulous. I had something like 50 wall posts congratulating me. BF was a little sad that he had all of 6 posts. Poor guy. He's learning that it really IS all about the bride pretty early (just kidding!).
*On Friday night BF and I went to the bookstore and bought a book on "real weddings" by the creator of the Knot. So far, we found out that we should have called my parents first to give them the news so we already suck. We called his parents first because they also live on the East Coast and by the time we got around to calling people, it was almost 9:30pm. Since my parents are one hour behind, we knew we could still call them a bit later.
*After BF proposed he said that one of the lines that he thought about saying when I pulled the ring out of the mussel was "wow! Some fisherman's wife got screwed!" Thankfully he did NOT.
*After calling our parents BF thought it might be funny to just change our status to "engaged" on Facebook and not call/ text anyone else. I nixed the idea because I do have a small number of friends that are not on Facebook and it's just not a nice way to tell some of our close friends. So, we took a picture with my camera phone and sent the picture of the ring with my smiling face in the background to all of our friends. Unfortunately, some of the picture messages didn't go through, so some people ended up finding out through Facebook anyway. Oh well.
*At first, we were a little underwhelmed with the reaction from both of our parents. However, I reminded BF that his mom already knew about the ring because she held onto it for some part of the summer AND that my parents knew that we went shopping for rings back in June. So while it was exciting that he finally proposed, it wasn't like it was totally out of the blue. Since we have now talked to all of the parents again since breaking the news, they have seemed very excited to help us out with the wedding process and we feel better.
*The reaction from people on Facebook was a bit ridonkulous. I had something like 50 wall posts congratulating me. BF was a little sad that he had all of 6 posts. Poor guy. He's learning that it really IS all about the bride pretty early (just kidding!).
*On Friday night BF and I went to the bookstore and bought a book on "real weddings" by the creator of the Knot. So far, we found out that we should have called my parents first to give them the news so we already suck. We called his parents first because they also live on the East Coast and by the time we got around to calling people, it was almost 9:30pm. Since my parents are one hour behind, we knew we could still call them a bit later.
9.12.2008
Giving you what you want
So here is the ring:
I guess BF has been wanting to propose for a few weeks now, but has been putting it off. He bought the ring the DAY AFTER we went ring shopping in mid June. His mom held onto it while we lived with her (just while I studied for the bar this summer) and once we moved down to MA he kept it underneath the passenger seat of his car!!! Boy is he lucky nothing happened to it!
While I was at the grocery store last night, he bought champagne at the liquor store. We decided earlier in the day that he was going to make mussels in white wine sauce. So when I went to get wine glasses in the other room he wrapped the ring in plastic wrap and put it in one of the mussels in my dish. He said that while we were eating, he started shaking so badly that he was trying to think of what to tell me if I asked why he was shaking. Of course I didn't even notice.
I went to dig out the mussel and noticed what looked like a bottle cap wrapped in plastic wrap and said 'ewww what is this?' BF gets up and starts to walk around the table to unwrap the ring and all I could do was laugh. I really had no idea how to react.
He got down on one knee and said that he didn't have a speech prepared, but that he loved me and would I marry him. Before I said yes he started to put the ring on my right hand, so I stopped him, said yes, and then we put it on the correct finger. Silly boys.
HOLY CRAP I AM ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!
I guess BF has been wanting to propose for a few weeks now, but has been putting it off. He bought the ring the DAY AFTER we went ring shopping in mid June. His mom held onto it while we lived with her (just while I studied for the bar this summer) and once we moved down to MA he kept it underneath the passenger seat of his car!!! Boy is he lucky nothing happened to it!
While I was at the grocery store last night, he bought champagne at the liquor store. We decided earlier in the day that he was going to make mussels in white wine sauce. So when I went to get wine glasses in the other room he wrapped the ring in plastic wrap and put it in one of the mussels in my dish. He said that while we were eating, he started shaking so badly that he was trying to think of what to tell me if I asked why he was shaking. Of course I didn't even notice.
I went to dig out the mussel and noticed what looked like a bottle cap wrapped in plastic wrap and said 'ewww what is this?' BF gets up and starts to walk around the table to unwrap the ring and all I could do was laugh. I really had no idea how to react.
He got down on one knee and said that he didn't have a speech prepared, but that he loved me and would I marry him. Before I said yes he started to put the ring on my right hand, so I stopped him, said yes, and then we put it on the correct finger. Silly boys.
HOLY CRAP I AM ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!
9.11.2008
Ha ha the irony
Ha ha the irony of writing yesterday's post. BF proposed last night!!!! I am now engaged!!! Definitely still in a state of shock. Details to come tomorrow.
Whoa.
Whoa.
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