Holiday weekend

I hope all of you had a fantastic Thanksgiving.  I had a great long weekend with my parents, my sister and her dog, and of course CP and our dogs.  As usual I ate too much but at least we took a family hike with the dogs at the Warren Dunes State Park prior to the big meal.

The dogs swimming in cold Lake Michigan

Over the weekend my sister and I also did some crafting via Pinterest:

We each made a wine cork wreath:  

Actually, this is my sister's wreath but mine looks very similar

We each made jingle bell snowflakes to hang off our mantles: 

Picture from the website

I made a holly wreath for our front door:  

It was fun!  I could see us using the long weekend to craft again next year! 

On Saturday we went to local antique stores to try to find a coffee table and a painting or mirror for over our mantle, but didn’t find anything that worked.  My Dad LOVES doing this kind of stuff so he was over the moon that we wanted to go antiquing. 

Sunday morning CP and I woke up bright and early to head back to IL to work on the dining room.  For some reason the seller WALLPAPERED the CEILING and INSIDE THE HUTCHES so I had a nice 8 hour day of stripping wallpaper off the walls.  My shoulders are still sore!  I swear the seller did some of this just to f*ck with the next owners (aka US).

Stripping the seriously UGLY wallpaper out of the hutches

Tearing the wallpaper off the ceiling.

CP is on a major tear with the dining room.  He is going to be traveling for work quite a bit in December and really wants the room finished before we have family over for Christmas.  We'll see if that happens....

Thanksgiving

It's been an annual tradition here at the Non Sequitur Chica blog to talk about our Thanksgiving menu.  This year will be a little different because CP isn't making the whole meal (I know- shocker!).  This also the first year in a while that we won't be hosting Thanksgiving.  Right now we are in the process of stripping wallpaper in our dining room and the room is quite a mess.  It's not too conducive to having people over....maybe next year.

This year we will be heading up with my sister to my parent's house in MI for the long weekend.  We leave tonight after work and hopefully we won't hit too much traffic.  Buster is going to be EXHAUSTED after a weekend of playing with his puppy cousin....while Koda will just be annoyed with the two of them.  I went on a Michael's shopping spree and will be making a bunch of Christmas decorations (via Pinterest of course) with my mom and sister.  The menfolk will just have to find something else to do while we are crafting.  :-)

On to the menu (for a grand total of 5 people- which means LEFTOVERS!):

Turkey
Gravy
Mashed potatoes
Stuffing (I can't WAIT for my mom's stuffing- it's the best)
Squash soup*
Brussel sprouts and kale with bacon*
Wild rice salad*
Pear tart

*CP and I prepped all of these last night.

For previous year's menus: the menu in 2009, the menu in 2010, and the menu in 2011.

What will you be doing for Thanksgiving?  Do you have anything exotic on the menu this year?

Odd dream

Last night I had the oddest dream.  In my dream my sister was getting married (something that she and her boyfriend aren't completely set on doing in real life).  I thought that it was odd that it was such a toned-down affair with a small number of people because my sister will absolutely be having a large wedding if she and her boyfriend ever get engaged.  I was running around trying to put everything together and make it the nicest wedding I could for her, despite her poor planning.  I realized that she didn't even book a photographer, so I grabbed a camera and started taking pictures for her.  

When the wedding was over I looked over at her and noticed her stomach was a little larger than usual, then it hit me: she was pregnant.  It was like a punch in the gut because not only is she not sure that she will ever marry, but she and her boyfriend are pretty sure that they are not going to have kids.  So while CP and I are running around for 2.5 years trying to get pregnant, they are not even sure they want kids and of course get pregnant.  After that I woke up.

This dream is coming on the heels of three other pregnancy-related things.  

First, I got a shower invite for a good college friend's wife a few weeks ago.  He had mentioned that they were going to start trying fairly soon after the Olympic Trials (this past June) and what do you know, they must have gotten pregnant on the first try because she is due in February.  I'm not only jealous of how fast it took them to get pregnant, but she booked slots at the best daycare only a few months into her pregnancy and sent out shower invites two months in advance.  Now that's someone that is not worried about her pregnancy at all.

Then, last week I found out that my friend that I talked about in the beginning of the year is 10 weeks pregnant. I am rooting for her as just getting pregnant is a problem because she has PCOS....but in addition she can't get excited for the pregnancy until she gets back test results on potential genetic defects in a few weeks.  She was worried to tell me about the pregnancy, but it doesn't make me sad to hear of her pregnancy.  She has been through enough and I REALLY REALLY hope that this is the one.

Finally, on the same day that I found out about my friend above, I found out that I had officially been lapped by a good friend.  A friend from high school's wife got pregnant quickly and announced the pregnancy when CP and I were beginning to realize that our journey was not going to be so easy.  Well, his second daughter just arrived into the world.  *sigh*  I'm of course happy for him, but I can't believe that his family is complete when CP and I haven't even made it to a positive pregnancy test. 

Anyway, so a weird and rough dream (thank goodness I woke up and knew that it wasn't true as my sister had quite a few drinks on Saturday night), coupled with other pregnancy-related items has me feeling a bit down.  But hopefully a long family weekend will brighten my spirits.

Good news

Good news on a Monday?  When does that happen?

Today was my saline sonogram and as expected, it was not painful and over quickly.  I saw my doctor for maybe five minutes after she made me wait a while and subjected me to awkward small talk.  I know she's busy but seeing her for a total of 15 minutes since moving to IL as we are about to embark on IVF isn't instilling tons of confidence that we are going to be anything more than a number to her.

Anyway, after checking out my uterus, the doctor determined that the surgery scheduled for next Tuesday is no longer needed!  WOO HOO!!!!  She said although my fibroids are still there (size of them: 10mm and 20mm), my uterus otherwise looks perfect.

Next up?  A December 21st consult.

Lucky

Last night I had dinner with a woman that is usually part of the local RESOLVE group, but has decided not to attend anymore because after five years, she thinks that all she will do is depress people.  However, she did agree to meet with me as the facilitator of the group thought that we would get along.  After hearing people’s stories at the RESOLVE group and then this woman’s five year quest for a child, I have decided that my journey (by the way, I hate that I use that word for this- I feel like I am in an interview segment on the Bachelor) has been easier than many others.

So far CP and I haven’t gone into debt paying for infertility expenses.  At most we have probably paid $5,000 so far?  (Mostly on my fibroid surgery.)  And for our upcoming IVF, my new insurance will pay for most of the medications and the process.

I haven’t had any losses and I think that this makes a WORLD of difference.  Those of you with losses…well, I just think that you are STRONG, AMAZING ladies.

I have a normal shaped uterus, normal hormone levels, I ovulate regularly, I have open tubes, and I have two working ovaries.

CP has a bit of a sperm problem, but at least he has sperm to give.  He doesn’t have any blockages and doesn’t have to undergo surgery.

Sure I went through a painful surgery for the large fibroid, but after the pain went away, I don’t have lingering problems….just 5 incision scars on my stomach.  I wasn’t planning on wearing a bikini any time soon anyway. 

Sure I have a short luteal phase, but my friend Crinone (ugh) helps me to add progesterone to my body to lengthen my cycle.

Sure I had endometriosis, but it was only Stage 2 and I didn’t have any scarring. 

Sure I have two new fibroids in my uterus, but I’m not worried about the upcoming surgery because it is going to be SO MUCH EASIER than the last one.  And it shouldn’t sideline me for the January IVF start date.

Next month I turn 34.  Not ancient by IVF standards so we still have a little time to play with.

I guess what I am trying to get at is that I feel lucky when I compare myself to others.*  And that worries me.  There are still other things that could pop up when we start the IVF process.  Right now I am blissfully unaware of those problems.  And as much as I try to tell myself not to get hopeful about IVF….well, the hope is still there.  As much as I try to tell myself that the doctors will have no idea how the medication will affect my body and thus I should almost use the first cycle it as a “test” cycle, well, of course I am still thinking that I should get pregnant.  I should know better….the logical person in me knows better.  The logical person also knows the statistics on miscarriages.  *sigh*  But the closer I get to January and as the number of birth control pills in my cabinet dwindles, the more that hope is chipping away at all  logical reasoning in my brain.

I want to believe that this is going to be the answer.  I want to finally get that positive pregnancy test.  After 2.5 years I would KILL for a positive pregnancy test. 

Please let IVF be the answer to our infertility problems.  

*Annnnnd here is where I jinx myself.

MIL visit

My mother in law has been in town since Thursday night.  While I really like my MIL, spending 6 days and 5 nights with her has been quite enough.  Because CP was traveling last week, I had her all to myself on Thursday and Friday until CP walked through the door around 9pm. 

I don’t want to be mean because I really do like her but this is a looooong trip.  I haven’t even had one hour to myself (or with CP)- other than sleeping of course- since she got here.  My hope was that yesterday CP would take his mom to the Botanic Gardens and that I could claim that I wanted to do something around the house and just get some alone time.  Nope.  My MIL decided that she wanted to help out with the home renovations so she helped me strip wallpaper in our living room.  It’s great that she helped out because she has experience with removing wallpaper, but still.  It’s definitely something that I could have figured out myself.

This has been a tiring weekend, not just because I have had to be “on” for the past six days.  I have found myself a little testy- possibly from the birth control pills?  Maybe from the same stories that are told over and over again?  (Thankfully, this phenomenon has been a little better since we moved away because there is more to “catch up” on.  If CP and I had to hear the same story about my MIL and her husband holding hands and then their cat coming over to place her paw on their hands so that she could hold hands too….well I was going to SCREAM.  We actually used to have bets on how often the story would get told in a single weekend when we would go to see them.)  I have definitely had to use my “take a couple deep breaths” technique a few times.

The bright spot of the long weekend?  Well, now the trip is almost over and we won’t see her again until some time in 2013.  Also, these:

My new slippers from the Field Museum.  They are AMAZING.  Both warm and hilarious at the same time.  They definitely make me giggle every time I look down.

BEST. PURCHASE. EVER.

Should I start wearing these to doctor visits?  :-)

A whole new yard

Those readers that have been around long enough know that CP and I like to work outside on our house.  In CT (other than taking down big trees- we obviously leave that for the professionals), we enjoyed completely overhauling the front of our house, organically trying to revive the grass on our front lawn, making and installing raised garden beds, making and installing homemade greenhouses so that we could have winter crops, and working on an amazing garden.

So when we bought our new place, we were looking forward to beautifying the outside, as well as the inside.  But as time wore on, we realized that there is so much that needs to be done....so maybe hiring professionals was the way to go.

I can honestly say that the work that our landscaper and his guys did in the past four days was nothing short of amazing.  It would have taken CP and I MONTHS to do it ourselves (especially with CP's travel schedule).

BEFORE- Front of the house.  The first weekend we chopped down the large bush on the left.  It was so big that when we would back out of the driveway we couldn't see if there was a dog, kid or adult so we were really worried that there would be a bad accident.  

AFTER- This is from a different angle, but here is the new front of the house.  I wish that the boxwoods were a little bigger and that we had the money to put some more plants in, but this will suffice for the winter.  This weekend I plan to plant tulips for the spring too.  :-)

BEFORE- Back of the house.  Yet another overgrown bush (that the seller used to meticulously TRIM WITH SCISSORS), nasty and overgrown ground cover (in the shadow), and overgrown lilac shrubs on the left.

HALFWAY- Ugly evergreen shrub is gone!  Lots of concrete pieces found in all of the ground cover/overall mess though.

AFTER- Who knew our patio was that big?  And although the lilacs look sad, they should come back just fine in the spring.

BEFORE- This was the "view" of the backyard from our sunroom and the patio.  I never understood why someone would plant four large evergreens making it close to impossible to get to the backyard.

AFTER- Ground cover, stumps (CP and I cut down the four evergreens back in August to give the dogs access to the backyard) and all of the other crap GONE.  Sod and mulch put down.  Fuzzy Britches was literally jumping up and down with excitement because now she has a place to play.

BEFORE- Everything is overgrown in the backyard.

AFTER- Holy crap I can see the neighbor's fence.

AFTER- I can see the back fence too!

BEFORE- Yep, more overgrown crap on the side of the driveway.

AFTER- A blank slate for spring.

Yes, this work did cost money but if you ask me, it was desperately needed and now the landscaping makes me happy instead of anxious (just thinking about everything that needed to be done made me tense up).  It definitely needed some TLC and the landscapers did a fantastic job.  I can't wait to fill it in with flowers and plants!!