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“If you get caught up in the worst case scenario and it doesn’t happen, you’ve wasted your time. And if you are caught up in the worst case scenario and it does happen, you’ve lived it twice.” -Michael J. Fox

5.29.2012

Annoyed at doctor


Boy I’m not starting off the day after the holiday on the right foot!  CP got up early to head to MA for work and I thought my alarm would go off at 6:15.  I must have hit the wrong button or something because I woke up and thought to myself, that’s weird I feel well rested…..because it was 7:25am!  I made it work by 8, but my plan was to get in earlier….  Whoops!

So…..IUI #3 on Saturday.  CP’s contribution wasn’t fridge worthy like last time, but it was still above average.  I had one follicle of a good size and good lining.

The one thing that annoyed me was that the doctor that turkey basted me said that I will definitely get pregnant.  Not necessarily from this IUI, but that I shouldn’t worry too much.  I told that she probably shouldn’t say that to infertile people (she is a young doctor).  I know that she is trying to keep my hopes up, but PROMISING that I will get pregnant?  That is a recipe for disaster.  So I asked how she could say that, even when people who have unexplained infertility never get pregnant.  She said that because I am still fairly young, there are all kinds of things they can do to help me get pregnant.  It’s the people that are pushing 40 that make it harder. 

I’m still bothered by the comment.  There are infertility blogs out there about people who are younger than me that haven’t been able to get pregnant, either through IUIs or IVF.  What if they saw this doctor?  Maybe she said that because as of right now we don’t have any problems (that we know of)?  Still.  That is a dangerous thing to say.

5 comments:

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

Agreed. Sounds like she could learn a thing or two about bedside manner ... that's one thing they definitely DON'T teach you in med school. Sigh.

Anonymous said...

Nilsa, so glad you can definitively comment on this, as it is clear you yourself have been to med school.

terra said...

I always thought it was med school 101 to never, EVER promise a patient something. You shouldn't promise that someone will get better from something or that a treatment will work or that you'll get pregnant. I think you're justified in being annoyed. It wasn't an appropriate comment.

Emilie said...

I have a lot to catch up on but I had to comment on this one. I can't believe someone who is as educated in the field of infertility as a DOCTOR would have known better than to say something so offensive.

Non Sequitur Chica said...

The doctor actually has a great bedside manner. It's just that like Terra said, it's just not a good idea to PROMISE a patient anything. You never know what could come up.